I've been so buried in writing, that it only recently came
to my attention how widespread is the misconception that women are more psychic
than men. I hate to tell you this,
ladies, but it's simply untrue. Men and
women are equal here. How can I say
this? There are a lot of streams of evidence
that tell us so.
Let's start by looking at the formal experimental controlled
research. Any gender difference here? No. None.
The average man or woman have weak but equal potentials. If anything,
where it gets interesting is that some studies show that bonded pairs of men
and women may outperform individuals.
What about poltergeist agents? That's where we most often see spontaneous
psi manifest in the field. Any gender difference there? Only if the culture is more sexually
repressive of one gender than the other. Otherwise, it's 50-50 male-female mix,
ranging from infancy to geriatric.
What about in mediumship?
We see more women psychic mediums on TV than we do male ones. Why is that?
Culture, pure and simple. If you look at other cultures around the world
where being psychic is considered a male purview, guess what? More men psychic mediums than women ones.
What about if the culture says both men and women have equal talent? Then that's what you see, a 50-50 split.
However, where women are expected to be mediums, you get an imbalance related
to a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What about Controlled Remote Viewing? It's billed as a "martial art" and a
way of developing "Jedi powers." Wow. That really appeals to guys. The
military knew how to sell it to them. It's
psychic but not woo woo psychic--it's manly psychic. So, what happens? You end
up with more male remote viewers than female ones. Of course, women can be just
as good with the same training. What you see as a gender gap is only an
artifact of how the technique is sold to the public.
One may ask why this misconception is so widespread. It's
boils down to one thing only: culture. Our culture is more accepting of psychic
abilities in women. There's even a phrase for it: women's intuition. You don't
hear about "men's intuition." Instead, they talk about "gut
instinct" or the "blue sense" or use some other phrase that lets
them distance themselves from being psychic, which they can't accept because
it's not considered okay for men in our culture. So, when it pops up in men, it
generally gets labeled as non-psychic, even though that's exactly what it is.
Let's look at one more factor. I've spoken before about what
people can do (whether men or women) as being limited by what's important to
their unconscious minds. If you look at male CEO's, they score higher on ESP
tests. That talent helps them to get to the top and succeed. Would they call
themselves psychic? Probably not in public. What about TV Producers? I've met a few, and guess what? The really top
ones, the guys who magically seem to get hit after hit sometimes privately
admit to being psychic. They use their talent not to give readings but to
succeed in a very tough business. Writers may have the same talent, to sense
what's right or wrong in their material (it's certainly something I listen to).
The list could go on and on. However, psychologists will tell you that most
women in our culture rate relationships and people higher than their careers.
That means they're more apt to want to get psychic information to help others
with their relationships, etc. -- whether as psychic readings or to move lost
souls on to the afterlife. What we see isn't that one gender is better at psi
than another, but rather that their interests and language differ for how they
use it or refer to it.
So, please. No more of this "women are better psychics
than men" stuff. It simply isn't true.
So, while group investigations are fun, they also create a lot of "noise" from the living (who put out as much or more energy than the dead) that makes it hard to pick out the more quiet energetic shifts of the dead and the subtle information of place memory (sometimes called "residual energy" in ghost hunting circles). This is especially true for beginners.
Is there a way to compensate? Sure. It's called meditation and practice. It may surprise you that not all of what you need to practice involves psychic tasks. There's also an element of this, which is simply learning how to really LISTEN to others, which you can perfect with the living. Very few of us do this well unless early in the stages of romance. Spend time really paying attention, completely, 100%, to what people you interact with on a daily basis are saying. Not only will in improve your interpersonal relationships, but it will also help you to connect with the dead.
The second factor has to do with the fact that we all have psychic abilities. Every one of us--even skeptics. There are plenty of places to find exercises that you can use to develop these natural abilities. I list a few on my main website (www.pamelaheath.com) in the FAQ pages. Annette Martin also has a nice workbook out called "Discover Your Psychic World" with the exercises she assigns her students. Mostly it boils down mostly to learning how to still your own thoughts and practicing in ways where you can get tangible feedback. Then build up your experience at putting it into action, starting with simple or small things, and working your way up to more complex situations. You'll have more success, and probably a lot more fun that way, too!A number of things piqued my curiousity at the Queen Mary. One of them occurred when I was standing in line, waiting to register for the event, surrounded by ghost hunters. Every few minutes a spirit would be there, tapping me on the neck to get my attention so they could talk to me (it was a busy, BUSY time). But the people around me, who were there to see the ghosts, were oblivious. And it made me think that many folks don't understand how they can see spirits. For the most part, it's just a matter of tuning them in.
Think of your consciousness as a kind of radio tuner. You can slide your mind up or down through various states, like turning the dial, letting you tune in various channels or stations. We all do this every day. There's nothing special about it. Normal states include awake and alert, daydreaming, sleeping, deep thought, prayer, meditation, road hypnosis, etc.
Tuning spirits in involves being aware of two things. First, that you CAN do it. It's just a matter of practice, which is where meditation can help you (it limbers up your ability to change your state of consciousness in a controlled, intentional way). Second, that what you can tune into easily will depend on what your level of vibration is. Believe it or not, we vary. Some, especially if they are spiritually developed, normally operate on a higher frequency than others. For them, it takes less effort to tune in spirit guides (who have to drop their vibrations less to connect with you than they might for others), but may take more effort to tune in negative entities. Think of it as being like where you start on the dial. Say you are low down on the frequency rate, at 92 FM. You only have to go a short ways to reach 94 FM (which could be a low level spirit, near the earth plane in frequency). But to reach a spirit guide at 107 FM, you have to go farther, work a bit more to dial up to them. On the other hand, if you were meditating regularly and spiritually, you might normally live at a level of 102 FM, you might find it easier to bump up to, and connect with, the spirit guides than to try to drop your frequency to tune in low level spirits. Because of this, not all psychics will be able to easily get all types of being.
One way to connect with those spirits who don't come easily to you is to watch for signals they may give you to let you know they are there and want you to tune in. For me, I get extremely cold when high level guides are around (their signal to let me know they are there and I should tune in), whereas I will feel earth-bound ghosts tapping me lightly on the back of the neck to get my attention. Really negative entities can be felt by the yuckiness or heaviness of the energy (it's like an oil slick fouling the water).
With effort and practice you should be able to tune in most spirits at will. It's all a matter of practice and paying attention to not just to the outer world, but also your inner one.
Last night, on the Peace, Luv, and Lip Gloss Hour, I spoke about a something that I think it is critical for every person who is interested in the paranormal to understand. It involves how mind over matter abilities can affect paranormal evidence in such a way that makes it difficult to determine the ultimate source of any findings...and the issue of what is "proof."
This is a complex issue, but it's really important. So, I hope you'll bear with me as I try to explain it here.
First, everyone has psychic abilities, whether living or dead. We know from years of double and triple blind controlled studies that you can pretty much drag in any person off the street, test them, and, if you do enough trials, a statistical analysis will tell you they have at least a little psychic ability. This is true whether you are looking at ESP, or mind-matter interaction (MMI - the paranormal ability of the mind to influence things in the physical world around it, most often seen now days as people making their computers go wonky when they get angry or stressed). You may not have a lot of gift, but you have some. We all do. It's universal.
Second, how you use those abilities depends on what is important to your unconscious mind. People can use psychic abilities in all kinds of ways. For example, skeptics can use their abilities to deliberately miss ESP targets or to block psychics around them from being able to use their talent. Other people can use their gift to know when the telephone is about to ring, or if a loved one is feeling sad, or what row to go down to find a space in the parking lot. Psychic abilities are often used for the little things in daily life that make it better. When I talked to psychics one of the important things I tried to make sure they understand, is that what they can or cannot do does not indicate what they are capable of -- only what's important to their unconscious mind. You might wonder why I keep keeping emphasizing the unconscious. It's because the unconscious mind appears to be the gatekeeper for all psychic information, and can operate independently of the conscious mind to effect your environment. In a way, this is what poltergeist activity is all about. The unconscious mind uses your psychic abilities to express its feelings or get its needs met without letting the conscious mind know what it is up to.
Third, none of the equipment that we currently use on ghost investigations is directly able to sense ghosts. Instead, they are a variety of things that were developed for sensing changes in the physical environment. What we found, through trial and error, was that some of this equipment seemed to be effected (or have readings that changed) in the presence of ghosts. We therefore started using these things in haunting investigations.
Initially, we thought that we might have been simply picking up specific qualities about the ghosts themselves--such as a kind of electromagnetic footprint--with these environmental sensors. However, now we are not so sure. Many investigators, including Loyd Auerbach and myself are starting to realize that many of the effects we see on these pieces equipment are actually due to MMI. Thus, if you see a trifield meter needle leaping up and down frantically, it probably doesn't mean the ghost is jumping back and forth in front of it. It is more likely that MMI is being used to effect your equipment. So far so good. But now we come to the next piece of this.
Fourth, the experimenter effect. This refers to the finding (known since the 1950s) that experimenters working under the same objective conditions and with subjects from the same population may get different or conflicting results, which conform to their own expectations. In other words, they can be responsible for whether or not they get results. In essence, what data you get can depend on who asked the question. This goes beyond bias or your ability to motivate the participants of your study, it can include ESP and MMI.
I need to correct something I said in that talk. The definitive study on this was by skeptic Richard Wiseman and believer Marilyn Schlitz. Both of them had performed a number of staring studies, involving changes in skin resistance (an indicator of stress used by lie detector tests) to being stared at remotely on a monitor. Marilyn had always gotten significant results and Richard never had. So, they teamed up. They did a joint study, using a randomized controlled double blind cross-over research design that used both of their laboratories, the same subjects, the same protocol, the same analysis, the same everything except for one thing--Richard was "responsible" for half of the tests and Marilyn for the other. And guess what? Marilyn still got significant results and Richard had null results. The only difference was the experimenter.
This put the cat among the pigeons where parapsychology was concerned. All of a sudden, people started wondering whether they, and not their participants, were responsible for their own success or failure. How could they know for sure what, if anything, had been proved? But what parapsychologists finally had to accept, once and for all, is that the experimenter is always a part of the experiment, and may be using their own psychic abilities to cause their results.
Now, you may ask why I bring this up with ghost investigations....
The hard evidence that ghost investigators typically cite from their investigations involve four things:
1. EVP - which by definition are MMI, and we hope are the ghost's mind influencing the recording medium (whether digital, tape or otherwise) to imprint the EVP. Of course, many believe a person acts as a medium to aid this. Some folks are really good at getting EVPs while others never get them, even with the same ghost. So is it the ghost doing it or the person? Or a particular person-ghost combination? A ghost doesn't need to be involved. You can use your own ESP to get the information, then use your PK to imprint it. And I know investigators, like Garrett Husveth, who get EVPs that sound suspiciously like their own voice -- and they know they weren't talking or whispering out loud.
2. Direct voice phenomena - like EVP but heard at the time it occurs, such as direct radio, phone calls from the dead, and the Frank's Box. This has the same issues as EVPs.
3. Photo Anomalies - although most of these are camera artifacts (see my main website for examples) there are times when you get some really interesting images. What are these? It is capturing something in the environment that is interacting with or reflecting a ghost? Is it the ghost using MMI to show itself to you? Or is it a human MMI-created image, as Ted Serios and others have been able to do on fresh, sealed film without it ever having been exposed to light? MMI is likely, whether you consider the source human or a ghost.
4. Changes in a variety of environmental sensors - which we're now realizing may be MMI--either from the ghost or the investigator(s) -- whether our unconscious mind using MMI to let us know that a ghost really is around or simply having fun playing with the equipment. (By the way, the unconscious mind loves to play...the more toys you give it, the most apt it will be to find one that it likes to influence.)
Okay. So what am I saying? All of the "hard, scientific evidence" we collect on investigation relies on, or can be duplicated by, MMI.
Oh-oh. And we're all capable of MMI...every one of us. And what we can or cannot do depends on what is important to our unconscious minds--which in the case of experimenters, can be getting data they can show to the world.... You want to find a ghost. Your unconscious can, if it wishes, give you those findings (whether there is legitimately a ghost there or not) through MMI. Are you seeing where this is leading?
Nothing you get can be considered absolute proof of a ghost. It's interesting. It may support your subjective experience. It may even be highly suggestive. But there is no way to know 100% for sure whether the source of your findings is due to a ghost or your own MMI. (Note: This is true even if your psychic abilities don't show up in other aspects of your life. It is possible that your unconscious just doesn't believe it's important to use those abilities in other ways).
If you talk to a parapsychologist, we're typically not all that interested in photos (too many ways to get artifacts and too easy for the unscrupulous to fake). EVPs are fun, but we don't know whose responsible--you, the ghost, or artifact. One of the first questions out of our mouths is likely to be, "What was your experience?" The answer to that question gives us the best odds at sorting out what really happened, if anything.
Now, I'm not saying you have to throw out the other stuff. But what you want to do is to use as many different things as possible to support each other. And not the least of this is what you see/feel/taste/smell/hear/sense. Recognize that you have the ability to develop your psychic awareness. Practice feeling subtle changes in a room. Were the people last in it happy? Sad? Angry? What happens when another person enters or leaves? Does the ambience change? You can practice all these skills with the living--after all, we give off those vibes, too--and it will aid you in being aware of the dead. Then, if you are sensing someone present, look for corroborating evidence. It's not proof, but it can add up to a strong case.
So, if I can give you one lesson to take home with you from this blog, it's to pay attention to your experiences. Don't throw them out. And by all means don't ignore them. They may be the best information that you can collect during an investigation.
I've heard it said that there has been no good research in the paranormal, so it's up to ghost hunters to provide it.
Huh?
To say there has no good research, is to suggest either a lack of awareness of what's already been done, or indicate that history is unimportant. Many of the questions that I hear come up in audiences have actually been studied through formal, controlled, experimental research. We have answers to them--or at least partial ones. But neither the audience nor those speaking to them often seem to know that. And that's really frustrating from my viewpoint, because I think the audience is sincere. These are real questions. They want to know the answers...and they could, if they knew the research.
Are there "experts" in the paranormal? I would say they are. They're called parapsychologists. Parapsychologists don't claim to know everything about the paranormal. No matter how much you know about any field, there's always more to learn. But a true parapsychologist is well-versed in the knowledge and scientific research of the field. They can say if a question has already been addressed, or not, and what was discovered in that process. These are people who, like me, have given up more than you'll ever know to pursue this passion -- our time, lucrative incomes, professional careers, and the respect of nonparanormal colleagues. We're doing our best on a shoestring budget (typically coming from our own pockets) while being constantly attacked on all sides--by skeptics (for being too credulous), believers (who feel we're too skeptical), and now by ghost investigators for being "irrelevant."
Do I find that insulting? You bet. But let's set that aside. My feelings aren't important here. There's a much bigger issue at stake.
I believe ghost hunters can contribute a lot. They have enthusiasm and valuable experiences. They experiment with things. They bring a delightful variety of fresh, new perspectives. But there's a catch to this. We've all heard that old saw about those who don't learn from history are doomed to repeat it. And there's no place where that's more true than with research. If you don't know what's been done, what's been successful and how (or failed), you're going to keep duplicating the same experiments and going over the same ground. You won't make progress. It's critical to learn what's been done - worthwhile by definition since it gives you a place you can build from. It's a stepping stone - not the final word. But it's a valuable one.
If I had to say the biggest single advance I've seen in parapsychology, it's the creation of an online library database, accessible to anyone anywhere in the world. It can be found at http://www.lexscien.org/lexscien/index.jsp. At the moment, it's subscription based. You have to pay for full access (limited access is free). But it's open to all comers. And it's worth it. It gives you the opportunity to find out what others have done. It can save you time and make your efforts more meaningful--not the least of which will be because it can give you more credibility whether with skeptics or the paranormal/parapsychological community.
We can all learn from each other. But this will never happen if folks turn their backs on what is literally thousands of years experience at investigating the paranormal and well over 125 years of formal experimental research. History matters.